Saturday, November 25, 2006


First of all, I want to acknowledged that I've been very remiss in posting (months have gone by...yikes). No excuses...I'm just not a regular blogger and probably never will be. However, at the request of several people in my life (hi Elliot) I am posting today.

Why masturbation? Well, there has been this new conversation that has occurred within my community about this very subject. I've actually been challenged by several Wet Spot members that our current policy against solo masturbation play is not very sex positive. And, upon reflection, these guys were right.

Last week I held a salon about Masturbation at the Liberty Bar on Capital Hill (the salon is part of an ongoing series that Teri Ciacchi and myself are producing through our small business, Erotic Seattle Education...more about that at another time.) The salons are our attempt to create and alter conversations about sexuality. The salon on masturbation was well received and sparked not only a great dialogue, but some ideas that we hope to bring to fruition in the future.

One of the ideas is to create a Coed Masturbation Group. Loosely base it on The Rain City Jacks and hopefully have at least one coed masturbation event a month at the Wet Spot. This is a huge departure from the norm. Getting women to attend will be problematic, however we've got some ideas to increase safety and reduce the "creep" factor. One is having strict guidelines around touching and non-masturbatory sex. By the way, I am open to suggestions, if anyone out there wants to pipe up.

We also are looking at creating more masturbation friendly spaces at our regular events. To stop "ghettoizing" masturbation by putting the Jack and Jill areas in tiny corners or closets.

I'm excited to be part of changing the culture and conversation about masturbation. I look forward to seeing our ideas flourish.

And, if you're interested, come to The Wet Spot's New Year's Eve Party and you'll see me and my girlfriend, Jennifer, bring in the New Year's in our traditional fashion (yes,it does involve masturbation).

Have a great day!

Oh, one last note. Candye Kane will be at the Wet Spot this coming Wednesday for one performance only. Not to be missed. You can get tickets at Brown Paper Tickets.