Saturday, November 25, 2006


First of all, I want to acknowledged that I've been very remiss in posting (months have gone by...yikes). No excuses...I'm just not a regular blogger and probably never will be. However, at the request of several people in my life (hi Elliot) I am posting today.

Why masturbation? Well, there has been this new conversation that has occurred within my community about this very subject. I've actually been challenged by several Wet Spot members that our current policy against solo masturbation play is not very sex positive. And, upon reflection, these guys were right.

Last week I held a salon about Masturbation at the Liberty Bar on Capital Hill (the salon is part of an ongoing series that Teri Ciacchi and myself are producing through our small business, Erotic Seattle Education...more about that at another time.) The salons are our attempt to create and alter conversations about sexuality. The salon on masturbation was well received and sparked not only a great dialogue, but some ideas that we hope to bring to fruition in the future.

One of the ideas is to create a Coed Masturbation Group. Loosely base it on The Rain City Jacks and hopefully have at least one coed masturbation event a month at the Wet Spot. This is a huge departure from the norm. Getting women to attend will be problematic, however we've got some ideas to increase safety and reduce the "creep" factor. One is having strict guidelines around touching and non-masturbatory sex. By the way, I am open to suggestions, if anyone out there wants to pipe up.

We also are looking at creating more masturbation friendly spaces at our regular events. To stop "ghettoizing" masturbation by putting the Jack and Jill areas in tiny corners or closets.

I'm excited to be part of changing the culture and conversation about masturbation. I look forward to seeing our ideas flourish.

And, if you're interested, come to The Wet Spot's New Year's Eve Party and you'll see me and my girlfriend, Jennifer, bring in the New Year's in our traditional fashion (yes,it does involve masturbation).

Have a great day!

Oh, one last note. Candye Kane will be at the Wet Spot this coming Wednesday for one performance only. Not to be missed. You can get tickets at Brown Paper Tickets.



Anonymous said...

I'll be interested to hear what you come up with around masturbatory play, I think this is a good idea.

One of my preferred forms of sex play, and pretty much the only way I get off, is masturbation, preferably in a cuddling/groping/etc pile with one or more people I like. I'm easily distracted so doing so non-privately is challenging for me, but that seems like a growth opportunity. ^-^

Don't feel like I've got any great ideas, but I'd be up for helping at least a bit.

Visaman666 said...

I was a member of Vancouver Jacks, and what we found was that there is no way to prevent the "creep factor", it's just one of those no..duh moments, but some touching has to be allowed, with us, it was no touching below the waist

Another phenonomon was that the men that got the most atrraction were the young "twinks", guys ike me were left "holding our own." ;-)

I must admit that a co-ed session waould be facinating, and I would cross the border to attend.

Anonymous said...

Hi there - I just found your blog via your message to the Wet Spot list.
I live in the greater Seattle area but am from the Bay Area and attended the Masturbate-A-Thon at the Center for Sex and Culture in SF last May. It was about twenty different kinds of fabulous (and I got to meet Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence! Huzzah!).
I would love love love if the Spot hosted a co-ed masturbation night. As an exhibitionistic lass, I'd be sure to attend. Maybe one way of marketing it to ladyfolk would be as a way to attend an event where there will be sex (masturbation -is- sex) but where you won't be approached. Perhaps it could be a friendly introduction to public sex?
It'd be worth looking up the Masturbate-A-Thons (Carol does the one in SF and DarkLady hosts the one in Portland. I'm sure they both have ideas on how to make this work.

Anonymous said...

I'd love to see this and saw this message back when it was posted. However, it never materialized. I'd be a regular if it did and think it's a great idea.

Allena said...

We'll be having a masturbation party the last Sunday of NOvember. Stay tuned.