Wednesday, January 31, 2007

On Writing

I realized recently that I'm not a bad writer. I had this weird story that because my spelling sucks (thank the Goddess for spellcheck) and my grammar sometimes is off that I really wasn't that good of a writer. Recently a few things have happened that made me realize that I'm actually pretty good.

The biggest thing was the acknowledgement I received from Robert Rubel, the editor of Power Exchange Magazine. He actually gave me a break on the deadline of my most recent article because he thought my work was so "clean". I guess that means he didn't have to edit it that much. And when I sent him my that article he wrote back "God you're a good writer. Thanks so much. I'm having a Fabulous Afternoon reading it". That made my day.

I guess it's time to admit it. I'm a good writer. So this week I started my second book (most of you don't know that I co-wrote a young adult science fiction novel in the mid 90's. Never published but a fun read). The book is evolving. I was going to write just about how to break up and remain in a loving relationship with your partner while doing so. I realized while working on the outline that loving break-ups (actually I don't even like the term break-up. Really it's just an altering of the relationship. I'll have to work on a better term) come from having a loving relationship that was structured from the beginning to last. And that changes in a relationship (ie: divorce, death, separation, etc) are inevitable and how we deal with those changes are up to us. The book was going to be called Happy Endings. That will be a large section of the book, but it won't be the whole book. I think now it's going to be about Beginnings, Middles and Endings.

I have a request for you, my readers. For those of you who have had positive relationship endings I'd love to hear about them. A short story about how you were able to maintain a good relationship through it all and what steps you took to make it so. Write me at



Saturday, January 06, 2007

Happy New Year!

Wow! It's a new year and a bright and exciting one at that. This is the time of year that I like to look at what I'm thankful for (I never make New Year's Resolutions, a waste of energy in my opinion). I have so much to be thankful for. Here's a partial list.

*My wonderful partners and poly family. You all know who you are.

*The amazing people in my life, too numerous to list. Kinky friends, Landmark friends, Wet Spot friends, Co-op friends, old cafe day friends, new friends, sex-education friends, even friends from my old hippie days all bring me joy and happiness.

*My bio family. I've been privileged to get to know mother (I didn't meet her until I was 19) as more than a mother, but as a good friend. My Aunt, my brothers, my sister and her amazing family, my step mother and her husband, Grandma and my incredible cousin, Veronica are all such important parts of my life.

*My job! Who else can say they are the executive director of a Sex Positive Community Center. No one. I am truly blessed.

*Erotic Seattle Education LLC that I share with Teri and Pan. We're getting ready to take the world by storm, beginning with Seattle and not stopping until we've covered the planet. :)

*Deciding to be a lifestyle coach. I can't tell you have fulfilling this has been. Knowing that I'm making a such difference in people's lives is thrilling.

*My Co-op. I live in the absolutely coolest co-op. It's inhabited by an eclectic group of Seattlites with the average age of, I'd say 75.

*My health. Goddess willing, it continues to be fine. Oh, I'm creaking and crackling here and there and I'd love to lose a bit of weight, but overall I'm happy and healthy and on my way to living to be 110.

*Those of you who read this blog. I'm always surprised when someone comes up to me and says, "I read your blog today". Not that what I write isn't worth reading, but that sending a post out into the "ether" is not always that personal and it's always a bit of a jolt to realize that others read what I write.

*Speaking of writing, I'm thankful that I've got several writing projects and friends who are going to keep at me to keep at it.

There's more that I'm thankful for, but I'll leave it at this for now.

I just want to say that I'm looking forward to 2007 and beyond. As it has been already said, "The best is yet to come."